"Encompassing" to Benefit Everyone Involved

Life happens fast. It is challenging to get out of yourself and become "part of" the experience that you are involved in. Most scramble to glean what they can for themselves.

"Encompassing" offers an alternative to this. It opens the door for "mutually beneficial" or win-win interactions. The first phase is asking yourself, "What am I a part of right now? What could benefit and uplift everyone involved?"

The second phase of encompassing is "allowing in" all of the information around you. I call this phase "broad-basing." This phase is often perceived as being overwhelming. We fear going into information overload.

Actually, broad basing makes the the third phase, decision making, easier. Some the challenges start working together to solve each other. Decisions are put in to perspective and the best course is more apparent.

The fourth phase is to trust yourself and take deliberate action.

You have to let go of how you would do it if you were alone. You have to let go of trying to control every aspect of the experience. Rather, you are orchestrating the forces that are around you. It is a highly effective leadership style.

For people who are up for it, the world desperately needs this type of leadership. The people involved experience that mutual beneficial interactions are possible. We as a people may start to believe in the possibility that business and interactions can be mutually beneficial. We could then once and for all evolve beyond predatory interactions and gaining at others expense.

How do your environments affect you?

All things affect. Continuing with the seasonal theme of introspection and reevaluating our lives, it is essential to consider how the environments we expose ourselves to affect us. Environments include our home, neighborhood, workplace, relationship, friendships, and social arenas.

One of the stories that we tell ourselves is that we live in a vacuum and the environments we experience do not affect much. We can handle it. We are tough and resilient. We have good boundaries. The truth is that our environments have a huge effect on us and the quality of our lives. If we understood how much, we would likely be much more selective about what we expose ourselves to.

Environments either uplift us or tear us down. Truly uplifting environments are mutually beneficial in that everyone involved are uplifted. The best gauge is how you feel while you are in the environment. Another much is if you are supported to be yourself- regardless of what you are feeling or what mood you are in. Environments that affect us negatively lead to us becoming hardened, desensitized, cynical, sarcastic, anxious, or depressed.

We also tell ourselves that we are stuck with our existing environments. The reality is that all of our environments are a choice. They may not be immediately changeable. For instance, if we determine that our career exposes us to an environment that does not serve us, it may take a some time to shift that- but it still might be extremely worthwhile.

So it might be useful to consider how your environments are affecting you. Are they uplifting you? Are they serving you? If not, it may be time to make some different choices in 2010. There all kinds of environments and worlds to experience. Which ones do you choose?