Next time you are mad at someone, send them a prayer. It doesn't have to be Christian. It doesn't even have to be a prayer. Send them a blessing, some love, or positive thoughts. The Secret http://www.thesecret.tv talks about the power of our thoughts. Point is- they probably could use all the help they can get. They are probably experiencing pain, stress, and difficulty. Them pushing you away, being short with you, judging you, or being irresponsible likely has nothing to do with you. They are probably projecting their misery onto you.So next time you want to throttle them, send them a prayer. Send them some love- or better yet love them. Not only will it help them, but it will free you. Free yourself of the resentment that you carry (that hurts you more than it hurts them). Free both of you from your attachment of them being something that you need them to be.
Free yourself to experience some other things.
Anger is energy looking for a pattern.
ReplyDeleteThe reason you love them
is to provide a larger context pattern.
You can end up actually capturing energy.
If you don't love, and you respond
in terms of the smaller scheme where the anger is,
by them behaving that way,
they end up capturing your energy,
and both of you are hurt
because they only have a delay in consequences,
they get what they want (not what they need)
by behaving badly,
and you succumb to a smaller scheme,
collapsing some of what you have built
and connected to.
My husband has been a Zen teacher for a long time.
http://ecophysics.org
Thank you for sharing, I am following you,
you are following me,
Jennifer (ecohealth2003)